You’re probably like most other guys. An average guy. A decent, hard-working fellow that is nice, neat, and respectful. You listen to her attentively. You’re polite and cautious with what you say and do. There’s only one problem:
Average equates to boring.
Don’t get me wrong. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with any of the things that are mentioned above. It’s just that they don’t make you stand out from the crowd. Keep being decent, hardworking, and the rest of it. Well, you might want to rethink the cautious with what you say and do. This is where loosening up will be a big improvement.
The fastest way to stand out in a crowd is to be funny. The second way is knowing what to do to have fun. The first can be a little tricky to master, but the second is a matter of talking and asking questions, then listening to answers. Which is interesting conversation.
When you find out what other people, girls in particular, like to do, become the supplier of that fun. If they like to talk about politics, suggest going to a political rally and follow it up with a discussion at a local pub. If the group of girls you have been talking with like comedy, suggest going to a comedy club for the evening. Become the guy who’s knowledgeable about what’s going on around town. The guy that knows how to make a good time. The guy that everyone goes to. That’s not average.
Standing out from the crowd can take many forms. The point is that anyone can do average. Making yourself special is a way to become more attractive to the opposite sex. You will stand out in her mind, and that’s what you want. And you’ll never be average again.