Ex-boyfriends can be a real pain in the rear end. Here’s a few ways to handle some of the baggage of the ex.
1. Keep things light and casual for a while. No pressure, no expectations. This is especially true for a woman who has just broken up. More than likely, she is carrying a lot of excess emotional baggage. If you want to have a relationship with her, this is difficult. If you just want to have sex, it can be hazardous. Easy does it. If the woman is on the rebound, she may want to have sex fairly quickly. Don’t be surprised, however, if you find yourself with a weeping woman in your bed.
2. Stay away from the topic of past relationships for both of you. Neither she nor you want to put someone else in the middle of your relationship. If she does talk about her ex a lot, it’s time to break it off. She will be having thoughts and feelings for him while she is with you. That’s extremely unhealthy for both of you.
3. Be open and honest. There will likely be times when you do or say something that will remind her of her ex. This is to be expected to a certain degree. If she and you find yourself talking about the past relationship in an open and adult way, listen to what she says about how she thinks the relationship broke apart. This will also give you some insight into her mind and feelings.
Be careful, though, if she has told you that the relationship she just got out of was abusive and she see’s things in you that remind her of her ex. One of two things is going on there: she perceives you to be an abusive person or, she see’s you as someone who has all of her ex.’s good characteristic and none of the bad ones. Either way you have a dangerous scenario before you.