Have you ever been listening to the radio and suddenly you hit dead air? The radio goes dead. No sound, no music, nothing. Did you wait very long before you tuned to another channel? Probably not. That’s exactly what will happen if you’re talking to a woman and you run out of things to say. The dead air of your conversation will gnaw at her until she turns her attention elsewhere. It’s a recipe for disaster.
The best way to handle these situations is to have some good stories prepared. Women love stories. They’re whisked away by their imaginations into a fascinating world that you’ve created for them. They’re transported into another time, another life, into situations where they can vicariously experience things they would never dare to experience themselves. They’ll love you for it.
Good stories must have you as the central character. They must contain humor and scenes. They should contain a lot of detail. Details should relate to human senses of sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell whenever possible. Remember, details are icing on the cake to you but they’re meat and potatoes to a woman. She needs the juicy details or it won’t be interesting.
Always have a ‘moral’ to your story. Bring things to a conclusion. What did you learn? How did you grow? Where did this story lead you? By bringing a story to a conclusion you give closure. You create a sense of ‘all is right with the world’ feeling.
One trick is to use a cliff hanger. Bring your story right up to the edge but don’t share the conclusion. Change the conversation in a teasing way and make her beg to hear the ending. Her interest will be so strong that she may even reach out and grab you to get you to complete the story.
Always follow the story up by asking her if she has any stories she’d like to share or ask her how she felt about your story or the moral/conclusion you drew from the experience. Remember, if you’re running out of things to say, get her to talk. You can use the break to plan what you’d like to say next or use what she’s talking about to begin talking again.